Why some people are so mean ?

At times I wonder how mean people can become to create problems for others when they find that all other methods to achieve their vested interests have failed.... That is really surprising that when things are settled now ,still they are trying to create obstacles. I know this is not the kind of problem which only I am facing. This world is full of glaring examples.People like treading on other people, they try to outwit you all the time, but are probably only really jelous of you.



ऐसा  कहा जाता है कि मनुष्य अपने सद्गुणों के लिए कम और दुर्गुणों के लिए ज्यादा जाना जाता है. शयद इसी लिए ऐसे लोग अक्सर चर्चा का केंद्र बिंदु होते हैं. वे हमें नुक्सान पहुचाएं या नहीं , हम उनके बारे में सोंचने के लिए मजबूर हो जाते हैं क्योंक वे मौके कि तलाश में रहते हैं. इसलिए हमें सावधान रहना पड़ता है.



But the bigger question is how to tackle such persons? In my the best way is that you cannot expect every person to be kind and gentle , at the same time if you can see mean people just move on , its nothing to stay back and worry .And most important ,you should not be mean and unfriendly ,

Happy days are back

It is said that Life is like a coin. Pleasure and Pain are the two sides. Only one side is visible at a time. But remember other side is also waiting for it's turn. So perhaps for me it has just turned positive . After ordeal of more than two and half months , I am back again at my desired place of posting.
Happy days are here again

The skies above are clear again

So let's sing a song of cheer again

Happy days are here again

Altogether shout it now

There's no one

Who can doubt it now

So let's tell the world about it now

Happy days are here again


But I have also learnt a lot of lesson. So much mud slanging, so much dirty politics, so much back biting, unethical game but any how it gets managed and I am today able to show that decision of authority should remain intact with respect to me. At this moment of time, I MUST DECLARE IN UNEQUIVOCAL TERMS THAT I AM HIGHLY OBLIGED TO ALL MY FRIENDS WHO DURING THIS PERIOD OF CRISIS STOOD WITH ME.Without their support this task was simply impossible to achieve.


What's greater then mom's love?

Which pillow is better then Mom lap?

Which company's better then friends?

There are some things in life with no substitutes.

Love them forever.

A Love Poem

It feels nice when someone misses u
feels good when someone loves u.
feels better when someone is with u.
But it feels the best when
someone never 4gets you...

Being yours is my basic necessity,
Missing you is my habit.
But forgetting you is like taking
my life out of me.

U make me realize that
You cannot fall in love
You can just rise in love.

Take my eyes but let me see you.
Take my mind but let me think about you.
But if you want to take my heart..
Its already with you.

When you love someone,
its like reaching for a star..
You know you cant reach
it, but u keep trying
Coz may be one day that star
just might fall for you.

Your smile is a beautiful as dew
Nothing is beautiful than it
Your love is as warm as fireplace
Nothing warmer than that

I just want to say I love you..
Till my life apart..

You are the reason of my breath
You are my creation my world..
Life can never be complete without
your love.

Ek Haadsa

सासाराम जाने के क्रम में दिनांक १२ जुलाई की घटना को भुलाना लगभग असंभव है. जिस टाटा सुमो से मै जा रहा था , पिरो से पहले उसने एक अधेड़ महिला को बीच सड़क पर धक्का मारा , बदकिस्मती से उस महिला की तत्काल उसी क्षण वँही पर मौत हो गई. अपने सामने वीभत्स मौत का नज़ारा मैंने पहली बार देखा . प्राण मुंह को आ गए. ऐसा लगा मानो सारी दुनिया यंही खत्म हो जाएगी . ड्राईवर ने जैसे तैसे गाडी को नियंत्रित किया. हम सभी यात्री चिल्लाए - भागो, भागो , और ड्राईवर गाडी लेकर भाग निकला. पीछे से लोगों का शोर सुने दिया. उस वक़्त हमें अपनी और ड्राईवर की सुरक्षा की चिंता थी. लेकिन मौत से ठीक पहले महिला के चेहरे की भाव भंगिमा , मन से निकलने का नाम ही नहीं ले रही थी.

The kind of emotions displayed on her face- the surprise, the fear, her desperate attemt to escape and finally her helplessness in front of a speeding vehicle, all made me really very sad. Not only sad but also I felt guilty of not doing anything to save her. Should I have forced driver to stop after the accident? But this might have led to lynching of driver by irate mob. I cursed my fate .

मै उस दिन न ठीक से खा सका और न ही रात में ठीक से सो सका. महिला का चेहरा हमेशा मेरे जेहन में कई दिनों तक घूमता रहा. हो सकता हो की उस महिला के बच्चे उसकी प्रतीक्षा कर रहे हो. एक माँ के बिना उनके जीवन की क्या दशा हो सकती है. वो किसी की पत्नी होगी, किसी की बेटी होगी, किसी की बहन होगी, यह भी हो सकता है की किसी के पालने पोषने की पूरी जिम्मेवारी उसी के कंधे पर हो. निश्चित तौर पर एक व्यक्ति के चले जाने के बाद पूरा परिवार विखर सकता है.

Why sometime fate or bhagya becomes so bad for some people? Why without our own fault , really bad things happen to us? What is life? Why we take so much pain to shape up it when we know that it can any day without warning, without notice ? Why we plan so much for future?

इस दुर्घटना के ठीक एक दिन बाद मै बीमार पड़ा. कहीं ऐसा तो नहीं की मृत महिला की आत्मा ने मुझे और अन्य यात्रियों को श्राप दिया हो ?उस दुर्घटना में मेरा कोई role नहीं था पर guilty feeling तो हो ही जाती है...................

There is something good in everyday

You wake up in the morning, open your eyes and possibly think, “I need coffee or Tea”. Afterwards you proceed to get ready for your day, hustling and bustling trying to either get to work or whatever your agenda entails for that day. Somewhere in your subconscious mind, you have already seeded the thought for the day “today is a good day or a bad day”. At that moment, of that thought, your day begins…

Sometimes despite all your engagements , you feel alone. Most people despise being alone.However, there is a power in being able to find contentment in solitude, even if this is a forced one. In my opinion, a great deal of the pain caused by loneliness is due to a lack of control. Solitude is easy to enjoy when it isn’t forced. I think most people enjoy a few hours or even a few days to themselves if their regular lives are full of activity and meaningful people.

So when you lack control over your situation, solitude becomes loneliness. If you feel your isolation wasn’t chosen, and you can’t control it, that exile can be unbearable. The key, in my opinion, to reducing loneliness, is to regain some control.

For me , the best way to enjoy solitude is by improving my inner world first. I may have had difficulties controlling my loneliness from the outside, but I could control my inner world so that it would be more pleasant to live in isolation.

I believe “Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in everyday” and with this intention,I want all my friends to nurture this positive thought by sharing the smallest good thing that made them happy (even if it was for a while) for that day with me.

What is Success? - a poem

In first week of May , I got a chance to attend a workshop on "Leadership Styles" at Delhi. What a wonderful experiance! Really resource persons were so talented and so motivating that , I do not have doubt that world is full of good and successful people. I am unfortunate if I do not get a chance to hear them or interact with them. I wish to write a lot on my experiance of this workshop, but at this moment this poem written by Amanda Bradley entitled - What is Success?- which was presented before us :-


What is success?

Success is believing in all you can be,
in all that you dream and dare,
Taking time to help others
find their dreams as well,
being ready to give and to share...........


Success is enjoying
the pathways you have chosen
and feeling so glad to be you,
Helping others to feel
self fulfillment and joy and real pride
in whatever they do.........................

Success is discovering
new ways to reach higher
and reach out to those all around....
for only through caring
and helping and giving
can life's true successes be found !


Really a motivating poem , I really like and love it.....

Still Waiting for something to ............

Oof...... I am writing a blog almost after a gap of Two months. Reason is that I am waiting and waitnig something to happen after a mess created by my headquarter and of course some too much engagement , some mental, some physcical............

Still waiting .................... ah.............................

If pain has to come, may it come quickly. Because I have a life to live, and I need to live it in the best way possible. So why fate is playing a waiting game?
 I just remember the great Eienstein who had said:There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. I just think that really it is nothing sort of miracle that one day an order is issued and next day you are asked to wait. And this waiting is continued as if it will continue till the end of earth. So what should I think everything is miracle ? The best way is to adjust and accept all these miracles thrust on you !

People aren't either wicked or noble. They're like chef's salads, with good things and bad things chopped and mixed together in a vinaigrette of confusion and conflict.
Still the hope remains - The very least you can do in your life is figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance, but live right in it, under its roof.

Visit to Birpur (Supaul)

Last week , I visited Birpur barrage in course of an official meeting.This is the barrage situated in Nepal but constructed and maintained by India. This high barrage on Kosi is really fantastic. I liked it very much. Here are some photographs;

Kosi River as seen from Barrage

                                                  
                                                         Barrage as seen from side

                                                   I along with other staff o AIR

Bihar Divas

विगत २२ से २४ मार्च २०१० तक बिहार दिवस का आयोजन अपने आप में अविस्मरनीय था. २२ मार्च १९१२ को बंगाल प्रेसिडेंसी से बिहार को अलग किया गया था. इस ऐतिहासिक घटना की याद में और बिहारियों में a sense of pride और belongingness विकसित करने के उद्देश्य से बिहार सरकार ने हर वर्ष २२ मार्च को बिहार दिवस समारोहपूर्वक मनाने का निर्णय लिया है. पिछले तीन दिनों तक इस सन्दर्भ में लोगो में जो उत्साह दिखा वो अदभुत था.मेरे ख्याल से हम बिहारी अपने आप को underestimate करते हैं और यह मानकर चलते हैं की हमारी अलग से कोई संस्कृति और पहचान नहीं है. साथ ही साथ कतिपय कारणों से बिहार के बारे में मिथ्या प्रचार भी बहुत हुआ है.
लेकिन अगर हम पिछले तीन दिनों में गाँधी मैदान में जो माहौल था उसपर अगर गौर करे तो यह स्पष्ट है की बहुत सारी भ्रांतियां अब दूर हो रही हैं . हजारों की संख्या में लोगो ने देर रात तक सांस्कृतिक कार्यक्रमों का आनंद उठाया , बिहार के इतिहास पर जो झांकी प्रदर्शित की गई थी वो कई मायनों में बेमिशाल थी. नई पीढ़ी कम से कम यह अच्छी तरह से समझ सकती है की बिहार का वर्तमान चाहे जैसा भी हो इसका अतीत गौरवशाली रहा है. क्या यह हमारे लिए गौरव की बात नहीं है की प्राचीन समय में पाटलिपुत्र दुनिया का सबसे समृद्ध राज्य था. नालंदा और विक्रमशिला जैसे विश्वविद्यालय थे , गौतम बुद्ध, भगवान महावीर, सम्राट अशोक , चन्द्रगुप्त, आर्यभट ऐसे नामों की लम्बी सूचि है जिनका जन्म और कर्म क्षेत्र बिहार रहा है.

इस अवसर पर आयोजित कार्यक्रमों में बिहार के दूरदराज़ से आये लोगो ,खासकर महिलाओं ,की भागीदारी भी महत्वपूर्ण थी. तलवारबाजी, धीमी साइकिल रेस जैसी प्रतियोगिताएं काफी लोकप्रिय रही.

बिहारी व्यंजन की बात अगर न हो तो शायद यह चर्चा अधूरी रह जायेगी. लाई, लिट्टी चोखा , चुरा दही, खाजा, जैसी बहुत चीजें हैं जो विशुद्ध रूप से बिहारी हैं. इन सबका आनंद भी लोगों ने खूब लिया.

इसमें कही कोई दो राय नहीं की बिहार और बिहारी की भी अपनी एक अलग positive पहचान है. यह भी सत्य है की बिहार की उपेक्षा भी अतीत में हुई है.

But there are enough reasons why we should feel proud of being bihari- The first republic of world, Gautam Buddha got enlightment, Chanakya, the great econmoist and political scientist, The Nalanda University, valmiki wrote ramayan here, Sushrut, the father of surgery, Bhagwan mahavir, Kamsutra of Vatsayana, Aryabhatt-the great astronomer----- the list is endless.

Frustrated ?

Recently I attended a meeting of Programme Officers in which our Senior most Officer of the zone also participated. Apart from normal official business, what I observed was that most of participants were frustrated from current state of affairs. The overall view was that we were not getting what we deserve and that we are being cheated by the organisation. The overall work atmosphere has deterioted too much and there is nothing left for us to work or get satisfaction from our work. Our officer gave all of us a patient hearing. (That is his biggest quality. He always gives a person complete chance to air his views openly and completely and he never out rightly reject his subordinate's opinion and even never question a person’s ability to do a work) He agreed with staffmembers views but asserted that we must think what is best for us in the current circumstances. If we become aloof and inert or if we react in an extraordinary manner then Department will justify its act of sidelining us.So we must introspect and try to develop positive attitude even in adverse situation. After all we are being paid handsomely in terms of pay. Many of us may not agree with his views and say that he is preaching because afterall he has already got post and place.


Later on I thought, thought and thought.(After all thinking is my passion). I try to understand what make us frustrated. Most of us are in our Forties and Fifties. This is a period where we are in a position to just look back in our life and evaluate what we have gained or lost in life. Secondly, during this period our Children are in an age where some crucial decisions may have to be taken regarding them. Our parents may be too old and sick. They also expect proper caring. So there is a lot of pressure.
So when we look back and see that we deserve more then what we have got from our life and again we find that our life in the organization has become stagnant, organisation has become a shelter place for jokers, hypocrites right from the top, then we feel being let down and finally frustrated. Sometime we call it Midlife crisis, when we start questioning the very purpose of our life. Midlife crisis involves wide range of feelings such as discontent with life and the lifestyle that may have provided happiness for many years, feeling cheated with people who have developed some kind of bond and have been really close to us, feeling adventurous and wanting to do something completely different and finally questioning the meaning of life. This led to evaluating the validity of decisions made years before. These feelings at mid-life can occur naturally, or they can be brought on by external factors.

So what is the way out? Should we only cry, cry and cry or should we try to chart out a course to live life happily even in an adverse situation? The answer is obviously second one. This is the only way.

A Funny Story

Sometime you have to find some unusual ways to get things done properly. I have just read a really funny story. I will like to share this:-

Online chat:-

One FRIEND WAS chatting with a female .
( both are software engineers by the way and both work for real big MNC’s )

Male : Hey…GM (Good Morning)… How’s u doing today?

Female : VGM…Day is going good and it got better having found u on chat
Male : wow…am honoured, u know what, my day starts only when I find you on Chat

Female : Yep…me too feel the same…Brb (be right back)’ll get some Coffee.

Male : OK

(Hero waits impatiently. Meanwhile, his manager comes to his seat.)

Manager : Hey, I need some help from you

Male : [**** This *** always comes at wrong time] Yeah tell me

Manager : Could u write a program for me which generates 'n'th prime number, Given value of n.Would you give this by today evening?

Male : I would do that, but I think it’s quite hard, is it ok with you, if I Give it by tomorrow evening.

Manager: Yeah, that would be fine. Thank you [Leaves the place]

(Our hero sighs and stares at his monitor waiting impatiently for Female to Arrive. All of a sudden smiles on his face. Over to chat window…)

Female : Hey, am back

Male : cool, you know what my manager does, She’s kinda….. keeps asking stupid Things,tries to give me stupid work
Female : Yeah, it’s the same everywhere. Real sick ppl these managers are!!
Male : Yep, u rite!!

Female : Hey, can u do me a favor?

Male : (smiles) sure, why not.

Female : Hey, I want you to write me a program to print 'n'th prime Number, given N. Would you give that to me by tomorrow evening? Plzzz. You know it’s real Urgent for me to work this out

Male : hey, that’s a one-hour’s work. Sure check Ur mail in an hour from now. ok?
Female: THIS IS WHAT I ASKED U WHEN I CAME TO YOUR WORK PLACE. NOW YOU KNOW WHO I AM!!
AND ONE MORE POINT…. YOUR 1 HOUR TIME STARTS NOW!!

REALLY FUNNY !

MORAL : There is nothing wrong in exploring bizzare ways to get the work done.

Valentine day for me

We might have missed the deeper meaning of Valentine's day by singling out romantinc love as focus of this day's ultimate meaning. Love is multifaceted.It is much more, ya, much more then simply emotion.love is a force that can motivate,create,heal and transform the lives of anyone it touches. Many of us have forgotten that this day was created to recognise a saint.

We can see that the story of St. valentine represents many aspects of love.It was his love for God and his commitment to his values that made him to disobey the law.His respect for romantic love is also included in his disobedience.
SO what we should do on this day? in my view - being our own valentine, sharing meaningful and heartful appreciation to all the important persons in our life will be the ideal thing i.e. it should not be limited to our lover only, and finally recommiting to our spiritual values.
We will feel the real joy of life as we release the force of love into our life.
This may seem too simplistic, but love works.

Money can't buy happiness

Many of us feel very happy when we get some xtra money in form of arrear payment, bonus, honrarium etc. It is generally believed that money can make you happy. How much this is true? For example- As a general rule, the higher the price of a hotel room the cleaner the room. If you pay more u will get more cleaner room, gud ambience and naturally it will make you happy. at the same time less money more problm in a hotel room which may even irritate you , what to talk about happiness.

However I will like to be more broad and say that this is not ultimate happiness. - Money can buy happiness, but only if you spend it on someone else.Spending as little as Rs 10 a day on someone else could significantly boost happiness. It will make you happy to your inner core and after sometime you will be able to see world in radically different way.

Even then this not all , to be happy is very complex thing. Sometime very little things can snatch your happiness, and sometimes even big achievements donot lead to happiness. Recently I read a beautiful piece on various aspects of happiness. Let me put some points from this.

Happiness begins with understanding that we are multi-dimensional creatures operating on four distinct levels: physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual. When all four dimensions are working in harmony it is much easier to achieve a state of inner peace.

These 4 Dimensions are equal in importance but impact our lives in very different ways. Learning the purpose and qualities of each helps you understand yourself and others more clearly and gives you insight into how you can improve your happiness quotient.

 Physical Dimension
Health – Play – Pleasure

Tune in to how your body feels when you’re happy.

This dimension helps us experience life through our senses, body and the energy around us. When we nurture our physical being we are better able to deal with health issues, body image, stress and various stages of life like child-rearing, career building, midlife and retirement.

Intellectual Dimension
Reason- Logic-Performance
Practice quieting your mind each day, focusing on the moment
This dimension rules our minds and allows us to reason, apply logic, appreciate precision, quality and performance. It also allows us to learn, accumulate knowledge, make rational decisions and bring order to our lives. All of this is good, but many of us spend too much time in our intellectual being. Thinking about work, planning or thinking about the past and the future can overwhelm us. When this happens it’s hard to appreciate the moment and we miss many opportunities to experience happiness through our other dimensions.

Emotional Dimension
Relationships – Self Image
Notice how you feel when you focus on the positive.
Probably the most challenging of the dimensions, this heartland governs our relationship with ourselves and others. A healthy emotional dimension allows us to be self-assured, confident and understanding of others’ emotions. It also helps us establish and maintain fulfilling relationships. Too often we dwell on negative emotions and this causes us to block out all the good we can receive from the other dimensions.

Spiritual Dimension
Beliefs-Concepts-Creativity
Allow nature, beauty and creativity to be an everyday part of your life.

While most people think of spiritual as meaning religious, in dimensional terms it refers to our conceptual selves. It governs our belief systems and inspires creativity and passion. When our spiritual dimension is given its due, we see the world outside ourselves more clearly, open up to creative expression and access the positive characteristics of the other dimensions more easily.

life is truly priceless. One should take care of all the above dimensions and happiness will be at your doors.

INTERNATIONAL WOMENS DAY

International Women’s Day is marked on the 8th of March every year. It is a major day of global celebration of women. The focus of the celebrations ranges from general celebration of respect, appreciation and love towards women to a celebration for women’s economic, political and social achievements.




There is no doubt women have strongest influence on us. However, the "battle" of the sexes is as old as the hills. In patriarchal societies, women are conditioned to accept men as the superior sex. But awareness, education, and life's struggles have led women to shed their inhibitions. Great women leaders, artists, scientists, and other professional women have inspired other women to overcome social obstacles. However, the course of womens empowerment is not smooth and hassle free. Our society still remains heavley in favour of males. Look, what happened yesterday? A historic bill on womens reservation could not be passed in Rajyasabha. Reason? Was it due to resistence from some opposition members? NO, The fact is that ruling party failed to show the courage at crucial moment. There is undercurrent that large number of MPs from ruling party are against this. So I strongly feel that now only a miracle can save this bill.

A society based on equal opportunity for both sexes is what we deserve. Unfortunately, even empowered and liberated girls and women are subjected to various kinds of injustice on the ground of gender. Many people still prefer a beautiful face over a beautiful brain. It will not be too much if I say that for large number of men a beautiful woman's face is like chocolate, cash or cocaine . they feel happy to be in company of a beautiful face and never try to recognise that many times an ugly face may have beautiful brain. This kind of behaviour has led to a system wher a girl or woman try to display her beauty in order to get recognision. And that is real discrimination. We need a society where beauty of physcical body should become meaningless and merit should be only criteria for judging a girl or woman.

Until women and girls are liberated from exploitation and injustice, all our dream of peace, security and sustainable development stand in jeopardy.

But we are living in 21st century. A lot has changed and I hope that sooner or later a society based truly on equal opportunity for both sexes will emerge. Happy womens day to all.